Next Steps
Preparing for the funeral home meeting
Navigating the days ahead,
a helping hand to guide you
In the middle of grief, there are also practical steps that have to be handled, phone calls to make, questions to answer, decisions that may feel impossible right now.
Take a deep breath.
At Nichols Bewley, we believe families deserve clarity without pressure. You should not have to know what to do or what to say. This page is a guide we provide to help you understand next steps in a calm, steady way, so you can feel supported the moment you need it most.
A few helpful steps while you wait or while family is gathering
There is nothing you have to do perfectly, but a few small steps can help the next few days feel less overwhelming.
It helps to make one or two calls to people who can support you right away. This might be a close family member or friend who can help you communicate with others, or a spiritual leader if your family would want that comfort.
If you are able, you can also locate a few important documents. This does not need to happen immediately, and it’s ok if you can’t find everything. Helpful items include a driver’s license or state issued photo I.D., if accessible, Social Security number, any prearrangement paperwork, and veterans discharge papers (DD-214), if your loved one was a veteran.
Start a 'NOTES' list on your phone
Many families also find it helpful to start a simple ‘notes’ list on their phone. This can be just a few bullet points that you add to later. A full legal name, including maiden name, if applicable, date and place of birth, parents’ full names, including mother's maiden name, general work history, organizations and hobbies, faith communities, and names of surviving family members are all details that can help with the death certificate information and obituary.
What to bring to the arrangement meeting
Families often worry they will show up without the “right” things. Please know this is not a test. Bring what you can, and we will help with the rest.
Click the button for a checklist of items that may be needed to complete the required documents and paperwork. You will also be able to download the list and print it out, if you would like.
To honor your loved one well,
a favorite photo is helpful, even if it is simply on your phone. We can often help improve the quality. A few meaningful details for the obituary also go a long way, such as what they were known for, what they loved, and the people and places that mattered the most. If you already know names of pallbearers or speakers, or preferences for music, readings or location, we can include those too.
If you would like your loved one dressed in specific clothing, we encourage you to bring a complete outfit, including undergarments, and socks, to the arrangement meeting. Personal items like glasses and jewelry or small meaningful items can also be included, if desired.
It’s ok to move gently
There are certain steps that must happen in a timely way, but that does not mean your family should feel rushed. You deserve care that is patient, respectful, and human.
At Nichols Bewley, we are here to provide calm guidance and practical support, so you can focus on what matters most; honoring a life and caring for one another during a tender moment, one step at a time.
At the end of the day, make sure any homes, animals or plants belonging to your loved one are locked up, looked after, watered and safe.
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